Transformation Kit

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Recently I got a late evening call from a good friend. A crisis had emerged. In 5 minutes I packed and headed over. Well, I brought beer, because this friend and I often met for beer and conversation. And I also brought chocolate. A girl knows in times of change, a good bar of high quality organic dark chocolate is a necessity – both for the incredible yumminess of it as well as the chemicals they say it triggers in the brain. I brought nuts. Several kinds. I didn’t know how long our conversation would last. Protein is important. I wanted an easy snack that could act as a supplement or get one over a skipped meal. You get the point – it was a 5 minute grab bag of essentials.

Nurturing is most critical and visibly necessary at moments when our lives take a drastic turn quickly. In truth we can use nurturing all the time. Personally, as someone willing to ride the edge, I have fallen off the edge more than once. I have my little patterns now for recovery, as many of us do. Some of the patterns are about giving into the darkness and despair enough to feel it thoroughly. Some of the patterns have emerged from successful tools I have used for recovering. So, I am thinking about developing something of a Transformation Crisis Nurture Girl Kit.

To nourish the body

  • list of items to have on hand and what each is for
  • list of stretches and other body care ideas and how they help

To nourish the heart

  • activities and exercises to tap into love
  • resources on the heart, love, and friendship

To nourish the mind

  • inquiries and challenges for thinking about situations differently
  • quick reference guide to non-violent communication process

To care for the spirit

  • list of inspirational quotes – the wisdom of those who have passed this threshold before
  • ways to clear space for spiritual reflection

Creative Commons License photo credit: S?ndy

Suffering in transition is a sign of our care and attachment. Having tools at hand for mediating our experience and challenging ourselves to grow and evolve can be invaluable.

What would you want to have in your Crisis Kit? And what do you do – and how are you being – when you or a loved one experience radical transitions?

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11 replies
  6. JeanRussell
    JeanRussell says:

    On twitter –
    @KevinDoyleJones says, “I look for a leaf of the day.”
    @lynnreidl says, “I have a nurture crisis list of peeps that happen to hold a higher vision when I cannot.”

  11. Evonne @amoration
    Evonne @amoration says:

    Tissues are usually required. I like to allow people to be comfortable to lose everything for a little while before they try to rebuild….it’s always a careful read to see where a friend is at before rushing in with quick fixes. Chocolate is an awesome one for most but not all solutions….bad for insomnia, good for PMS.

    Grounding foods tend to be more alkaline, lots of ROOT vegetables and greens to get closer to earth, helpful if there’s a lack of focus. Also look for blood purifying foods — ginger, beets, simple detoxifiers like lemon and tumeric. I can’t tell you how many times my personal transformation kit has included a customized soup remedy.

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